This blog is for ongoing dialogue between those of us who have survived divorced and have started the journey of finding out who they are and what they want out of their new lives. It's for support, ideas, and motivation to live a full life.

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

Timing Is Everything

Happy New Year! I hope you are ready to start a new year full of opportunities to change, grow and improve. One thing that showed up a lot for me in 2007 was the fact that there really is a time in life for everything. It's all about timing. I have struggled with patience a lot in 2007 and know it will be something I'll have to put a lot of energy into in 2008. I want what I want, when I want it, and it's usually that I wanted it yesterday. This applies for me both personally and professionally.

My therapist has been instrumental in helping to slow me down and appreciate things daily instead of always wishing things away. She has helped me through guided meditation and I look forward to looking more to meditation this year. My friend Lori gave me a great CD on beginners meditation that I put on my iPod and I've found that really helpful in calming myself when I'm anxious.

My neighbor is going through a divorce. He was sharing with another neighbor and I about his experience dating this past year. He knew that the relationship was not going to develop into anything meaningful, but was just having fun. The woman made mention a couple of times about "taking things to the next level" and he knew it was time to end things. His comment about knowing himself and where he was in the divorce growth process was that he knew that he still had "self indulgence and bad decision making" to get out of his system. I thought that was really funny yet totally appropriate. He knew the timing was off and that he wasn't ready.

Opening ourselves up to new opportunities and allowing life to unfold versus trying to force things is vital to healthy growth.

To your new life...

Claire

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2 comments:

ar said...

Knowing where you are in the process is so important...I know for me, it is a struggle between feeling lonely and wanting companionship and still not feeling "worhty" of it.
It is so hard to know if you are ready, what exactly you are ready for, and if you even want to be ready for someone agian!

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